I know, I know, you must be have reread this question at least a couple of times and asked yourself, “Whaaaaat? Isn’t the heart and the soul the same thing?”
I remember being in a book club in college and asking the same thing. It gets even more confusing when you try to add the word “spirit” into the mix.
But for now, let’s focus on the question: where does love come from, your heart or your soul?
In order to be able to answer this question, it’s important to define what soul means and what heart means.
Let’s start off with soul.
What Is The Soul?
- Defines who you are.
- It is your true identity.
- It is your personality… that doesn’t change whether you’re with others or alone.
- It’s your core essence.
- It is your “CEO self”… the one which makes the lifestyle and behavioral decisions that shape the outcome of your life.
- These choices range from:
- What do you do for fun?
- What do you do when you’re stressed?
- How do you spend your time?
- How do you spend your money?
- Who do you admire both in and out of the entertainment industry?
- What shows do you watch? What values or lack of values do these shows portray?
- What books do you read? What lessons do these books teach you (if any)?
- Who do you love?
- What kind of people do you allow to be part of your life?
- What do you treasure?
- What are your core values?
- What core values are determining the choices that you make?
- These choices range from:
Now let’s talk about the heart.
What Is The Heart?
- Although your physical heart is only the size of your clenched fist… your emotional heart is much larger.
- It’s whom you intuitively associate yourself with.
- For example, when someone asks you to point to yourself, instinctively, you point to the location where your physical heart is.
- In your mind, well actually according to you… you are in in your heart.
- Even the most intellectual person does not point to their brain when someone asks them to point to themselves.
- The heart is our “feeling/emotions and desire center,” almost like a “feeling, emotion and desire dashboard.”
- When you empathize with someone, you feel their hurt or how they’re feeling in your heart.
- When you ache for someone, or miss them, you feel it in your heart.
- When you lose someone either because they went away or because they passed away you feel a heaviness in your heart.
- When you are happy beyond belief to see someone you feel it in your heart (and most likely in your stomach as well, due to all of the butterflies you are feeling.
- And the Cinderella song that says:
A dream is a wish your heart makes
When you’re fast asleep
In dreams you will lose your heartache
Whatever you wish for you keep
Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling through
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
the dream that you wish will come true
- So in other words, our dreams come from our heart. By the way, the line in red in the lyrics above is probably my favorite line from a Disney love song.
- The heart is more weaker than the spirit because it is more susceptible to the interactions of others.
- The heart is something that we need to protect because it is prone to be “broken” although we know that it’s fragile and powerful at the same time.
- When we experience a romantic loss, we often say, “my heart is broken.” We don’t say, “my spirit is broken.”
So Where Does Love Come From, The Heart Or The Soul?
As you can see, love can come from both the heart and the soul.
Let’s explore what loving with the heart and loving with the soul looks like.
What Does Loving Someone With Your Heart Mean?
For most of you, loving with your heart is easy.
That’s what you know how to do.
Your heart is where most of the love that you give to others comes from.
If you stop to think about it, it’s a beautiful thing that you are willing to love yourself with the a delicate part of you that is bound to be hurt.
But you do it over and over again, because it’s worth it to you to know that you’re establishing an emotional connection that can uplift, inspire, illuminate, bless, value, make someone feel special and the list goes on and on.
That’s why when you know that someone loves you and they demonstrate it well, you treasure that love … because it is a treasure.
What Does Loving Someone With Your Soul Mean?
Loving someone with your soul means that you are:
- loving someone faithfully (which doesn’t mean exclusively).
- For instance, you can love your mother and your sibling with all of your soul.
- It doesn’t mean that you can love one or the other.
- It often (but not always) means that you can love someone to such a degree that you would “almost” do anything that they asked you for them…as long as it doesn’t compromise you too much.
- It means loving them with more than your feeling, emotion and desire center.. you are loving them with all that you are. Meaning your whole entire essence is loving them.
- It is easier to love your child with your heart and soul than it is to love your neighbor with your heart and soul.
- Loving with your soul embraces the person whom you love completely.
- And almost undeniably (you’ll see what this means in a second).
Who Decides Whether You Love Someone With Your Heart Or With Your Soul?
It’s hard and unnatural to dictate to yourself whether you should love someone with your heart or with your soul.
- Love can be born just from the heart. And forever stay in just the heart.
- It can also be born in the heart and then progress to the soul as well.
- Love can also be be born in the heart and soul simultaneously. Like when you have a child.
Generally speaking, most people love more people with their heart and fewer people with their soul.
It just happens to be like that.
So, by nature, you can tell how much someone means to you based on whether you love them with your heart or whether you love them with both your heart and soul.
It’s a guidance system that you should just accept and not feel bad to try to manipulate it.
Loving, Whether It’s With Your Heart Or With Your Soul Is Still Special
Feeling love in you is marvelous thing.
Regardless of whether you love someone with your soul or with your heart… you need to demonstrate love.
And as we’ve talked about in this site before, you need express your love in a way that the other person grasps. Otherwise, they will not feel your love.
If you love them with your heart that’s great.
- And while YOU may feel great loving them, what good does it do them (or do in general) if they have no clue about it?
- Loving someone “secretly” is romantic until… someone really needs it to feel valuable. Then, not demonstrating their love is cruel.
If you love them with your heart and soul…they should absolutely know about it. It’s like informing them that they won an Oscar in Love. They deserve to know! So tell them!
To Wrap It Up
The main difference between loving someone with the soul vs. loving them with the heart is that your heart expresses love through affection and your soul expresses love through devotion.
Now It’s Your Turn!
Do you now see the difference between loving someone with your heart and loving someone with your soul?
Share some examples with us below.
You can even get creative and share how you act when you know that you love someone with your heart vs. how you act when you love someone with your soul. Or both.
Can’t wait to hear your comments below!
Your experiences will also enrich our perspectives. 🙂