How Can I Help You?

For some reason, you thought that once you became a mother you could enjoy being that–  A Mother.

You thought you could FIIIIIINALLY relax, just focus on your kids and thoroughly enjoy being their mom. BUUUUT instead of playing Uno with them, playing checkers, Guess in Five, Scrabble, blow bubbles or simply toss a ball back and forth, you can’t stop thinking about and ultimately acting on your to-do list. You even spend your weekends on this to-do list instead of on watching Disney movies or playing games with your kids.

 

In a nutshell, you’re an OVERWHELMED mom, but you don’t want to admit it.

 

You worry about:

• loving and being loved
• childbirth
• breastfeeding
• whether you should or shouldn’t cloth diaper
• parenting in general, and making sure you don’t raise a brat in particular
• early childhood education
• finding the time to teach your child what you KNOW they need to know
• finances
• the number of date nights you don’t have but should be having and their quality
• losing friendships (with people who don’t have kids and with people who do and are therefore too busy to hang out anymore)
• your self-care, and let’s face it, your sanity
• dying prematurely and leaving your little ones behind AND
• as if THAT wasn’t enough, you worry about how modern-day selfishness, lack of empathy and lack of love has affected the world YOU were so fond and felt safe in is no longer the world your children will enjoy.

 

And the list could go on and on (and on).

I get it.

I’ve been there.

Every time I check off one thing on my to-do list, it seems like three other things pop up.

Wouldn’t it be nice that when you set a 30-minute timer to do ONE thing, that other things (or little ones) didn’t suddenly need your attention before you even got the ball rolling on the first task?

And I know aside from feeling overwhelm, you have fears and worries that you don’t often share with anybody because:

• on one hand, you want to appear like you’re Superwoman (admit it, you really do, ESPECIALLY if your loved ones call you “courageous,” “warrior,” or “strong” (like they call me) — titles which are nice and all, but that don’t allow you to appear weak and vulnerable) AND
• on the other hand, you just wish you had the courage to show up authentically not only in your strength but also in your weakness. You wish you could ask for help or at least express how you’re feeling without shocking people that YOU, Ms. Superwoman, could use some help, or empathy, understanding or all three.

 

But let me tell you 2 Things:

#1:

No amount of acting like you’re Superwoman will EVER give you the ability to just wave your magic wand and have THE perfect children, the perfect husband, the perfect home and the perfect life.

Hate to burst your bubble. I wish there WAS a make-my-life-perfect magic wand (because trust me, I’d be the first to get it) but it doesn’t exist.

But you know what? Maybe it’s a good thing that there is no magic wand because life isn’t about having everything be perfect and then just coasting through life and living happily ever after. It’s about LIVING. The ups, the downs, the turns, the dips. The small moments, the big moments. The trials. The celebrations. The things that make you cry for joy and cry for real. Life is meant to experience Everything— even if that breaks your Disney fairy-tale-loving heart.

Life ISN’T about happily ever after, it’s about living as PRESENT and happily as you can today and then trying to up your own game tomorrow and then the day after.

I know it isn’t glamorous but what is worth more than all the diamonds in this world is your life and your children’s life and your spouse’s life— so never take ANYTHING (especially now) for granted.

 

#2

You are not alone in feeling this. I already told you that I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed sometimes (more than I’d like to admit) and so does the seemingly-most-accomplished neighbor/ co-worker/family member who always looks so put together (like she didn’t have any chores or projects to do) and who tells you that she gets bored. Honestly, who has time to get bored? I sure don’t. Do you?

 

#3 So we are going to snap out of it.

Give yourself less self-pity and more empowerment.

Less overwhelm and more joy in all the things that you have swirling around you that you can focus on and appreciate.

 

Who Am I?

I’m Haydee Montemayor. Someone whose BEST title is that of Mom.

My superpower is not taking any hug, kiss or special moment for granted.

What I’m working on is being present with my family while also taking pictures and little videos of the cute moments knowing that these precious times won’t last forever.

My mission is to help mothers recognize that mothering is work today as well as their most important legacy. I encourage them to mother their children in a way that makes them feel proud, one wise parenting decision at a time.

 

I tutored, mentored and taught other people’s children for 28 years (trust me when I say I started really young) before starting my own family. In the process, I experienced the effects of good parenting vs. bad parenting and have since become a writer who teaches mothers how to navigate various stages of motherhood because I don’t want them to feel alone in the process like I felt.

I encourage mothers to work on their personal development and vocalizing their needs in order to be able to raise their children to be loving, responsible, smart mature and happy. But you can’t expect your children to achieve their greatest potential if you aren’t striving to reach your own greatest potential.

 

“As unfair and as tragic as it is, parenting is like a domino effect, parents who make continual parenting mistakes, inevitably knock down some part of the child’s wholeness, happiness and potential.”

And I don’t want you to be one of those parents.

What Do I do?

In a nutshell, I give mothers actionable guidance so that they can parent with patience, confidence, and love and as a result earn the trust, admiration and love of their children.

 

Much like an interior designer designs a space that works well for the type of life the owner wants to live in the home, I help mothers joyfully make space in their life and their heart to embrace motherhood as the lifetime commitment that it is. After all, your life and your heart IS the home where your children’s soul lives.

 

And I like to remind mothers that just like you wouldn’t ask someone else to fulfill your duties as a wife, viewing motherhood as something that you do for 3 or 6 months before handing it over to someone else ain’t gonna cut it. (If you were a child of this type of parenting model you know EXACTLY what I mean).

 

For those of us who have decided to be co-creators of life and bring children into the world, our greatest mission in life IS about embracing motherhood, not running away from this GRAND responsibility by fixating on things that in the end don’t matter as much as our children.

 

I help mothers see that yes, they do have a little bit of wiggle-room to be who they are and still be a good mother, but that at the end of the day, it’s about making decisions that truly show that they’re treating, interacting with and supporting their children in the most loving way they know how.

 

In my program Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully Online Course, I help mothers became comfortable with breastfeeding. Those first few days, weeks and months are SO critical. Most importantly, I help mothers enjoy this time because motherhood IS the best job in the world. Yes, it’s the most challenging, but it’s the one that will give you the most satisfaction in life.

To learn more super-practical tips about breastfeeding that won’t make you say to yourself “I wish someone would have told me  ___(blank) _____,” click this link to get my FREE Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully Online Course.

 

AND IN CASE YOU ARE HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT MY PERSONAL LIFE….

I’m a proud mom and wife with a special knack for (and a couple of degrees in) education. I live in the United States. I love cloudy days and cooler temperatures. I launched Love and Treasure in July 2013.

 

Since entering this digital world, I have met wonderful moms that have inspired me in their creativity, business-savvy, love for their children and love for the world.

 

My favorite organizations to donate to are:

• St. Jude’s Research Hospital,
• Boys Town
• Kiva,
• Raices
• Charity: Water (You can link it so that any time you purchase anything from Amazon, you’re donating to them. Learn how to choose your preferred charity and add the Smile Amazon feature to your own Amazon account).
• Pencils of Promise

I love:

• “love”
• learning
• coming across recipes (especially dessert recipes) that make people get seconds or thirds
• shopping on Amazon
• Tuscany and Disney (so cool that they rhyme).
• my family more than I can ever express, especially my grandmother who loved me unconditionally and chose me as her favorite even though I have 80+ cousins.

 

My favorite shows are:

• This is Us
• Married at First Sight
• 90 Day Fiance
• The Bachelor and The Bachelorette
• America’s Got Talent (AGT)
• I am the greatest Oprah fan out of anybody I know.

 

I love moist, chewy cookies and a good slice of made-from-scratch cake (carrot and hummingbird cake? Yes, please)!

 

And one of my guilty pleasures is staying in soft, cozy PJ’s all day. Doesn’t matter what season it is, but I enjoy Fall and Winter the best (I also increasingly question what I’m doing in AZ).

 

I love and treasure life. Things are as they should be, even when it doesn’t feel like that.

 

 

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(A.K.A. THE WRITE-ABOUT-YOURSELF-IN THIRD PERSON VERSION)

 

Haydee Montemayor is the blogger behind Love and Treasure. She is the creator of Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully Course.

She’s a proud mom, spouse and teacher who helps mothers mother with love and confidence.

When she’s not working on her online content, you can find her learning, reading, spending time with her kids and breastfeeding.

Haydee’s primary goal is to help you be present and parent your children who chose you as their mother.

Check out her stories, resources, tips and courses on motherhood, life, and love at loveandtreasure.com .

 

 

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