The 8 Most Mysterious Characteristics of Love

Love Has Many Colors

As Valentine’s Day is approaching, more people have love on their mind.

I always do.

I’m fascinated by love.


Because it’s not all pink and red roses, you know?

There are aspects of love that I don’t even know what color they are.

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So in this post, I’ll tell you which aspects of love I find mysterious.

It’ll be a list, because I don’t have the answers to why love is this way.

It’ll just be a fun observation.

And in the end, I’d like for you to please share what aspects of love you think are the most mysterious.

What Do I Mean By Mysterious?

I don’t know about you… but when I pass away, I have some questions that I need answers for. Particularly, when it comes to love.

In this post, I’ll share some questions that I ponder about. That sometimes keep me (or have kept me) up at night.

That have made me day dream.

Or simply wonder.

They usually fall into the category of “WHYYYYYYY?????”

You know what I mean, right?

  • Why is love like this?
  • Why is love like that?

You get the point.

In essence, these mysteries are things about love that you’ve wondered about.

These are patterns that you see in the world and that you don’t know exactly what to do with, where to place, whether to accept or reject, whether to label as a given, or a “heck no!!”

In the end, these mysteries are much more powerful than we are in terms of their ambiguity (unknown origin and nature), but essentially, they’re what invite us to lean in to love and take a closer look.

In sum, they make love more interesting, complex, and curious.

It’s no wonder then that many great songs, movies, novels, memoirs and stories mesmerize us.

So let’s get started in unveiling the most mysterious characteristics of love!

Mystery #1

Why do people feel the need to be with someone when they’re no longer here (either because they have passed away, they’re not nearby, or they have moved on in their life)?

Mystery #2

Why are some people so lenient when it comes to love? In other words, why are some people so tolerant of the love crumbs they receive rather than going for the whole love cake?

Mystery #3

If it is said that we are often surrounded by people who are at a certain level of consciousness, why is it that in some marriages, one person seems way more “consciously” advanced than the other? Does this mean that the one person who thinks is advanced is not as advanced as they think?

Mystery #4

Why is it that many people who have achieved great things in life, had a physically or emotionally absentee father and/or mother?

I know that this has to do with the archetypes that people are meant to live, which at the end will make them stronger… however, why is it necessary in the first place?

Meaning, why does the absence of love, more often than not, what makes people stronger instead of the PRESENCE of love?

I don’t know about you, but I think this last question is a big one.

Mystery #5

Do people die, defy death or are born just to allow or prohibit couples from forming?

Let me elaborate, so that you know where I’m coming from.

  • Do you know of anybody who died and because of their death a couple got together or didn’t get together?
  • Do you know of anybody who had a near-death experience but lived to meet the man or woman of their dreams?
  • Have you ever wondered if people are born “just because” or in large part because they’re meant to be someone’s couple?

I know this last question may seem almost like “not enough” and a “lame” reason for living because we think we’re so much more than just a partner.

But then, does that mean that loving and being loved isn’t enough? That being someone’s couple isn’t enough?

What if instead of searching for “our life’s purpose” we realize that the purpose of our life is to love?

Not just in a romantic sense, but in a general love sense.

Mystery #6

Can our unborn children see us from above?

And if so, what do they notice the most in us?

Do they choose us? What criteria do they use to choose us?

Do they get to meet our relatives that have gone before us?

Mystery #7

Why does love get sent to the back burner of our lives individually and collectively so often?

Why don’t we embrace our loving nature even more?

Mystery #8

When we go to Heaven/afterlife (if you believe in a Heaven/afterlife) are there couples?

And who determines what couples go together?

Does there have to be a mutual desire on both parts to be together?

But what if you want to be with someone and they prefer being with someone else? Or vice versa?

And if you’re rejected does that rejection hurt eternally?

What do couples do in the afterlife?

 That Was Fun!

It’s fun to ponder about these things because we get to see love as something larger than life, which of course it is.

I could go on and on with some of these questions, but I’ve greatly enjoyed sharing these with you.

So now it’s your turn to have some fun.

Now It’s Your Turn

In the comments below, please let me know:

  • What love mysteries are you curious about?

I would LOVE to hear them!


  1. Lynne says:

    Dear Haydee,

    To reply to mystery #3: I think that the people who surround you are on the same frequency level as you. Maybe your lover has the same drive (ambition) as you or lack of self-esteem, maybe he would just like you love to move to another country or is suppper loving towards his loved ones just as you are or maybe he just has to get up at seven in the morning everyday just as you do. There could be a lot of things that make you share the same frequency, I do not think it necessary needs to be your consciousness.

    Very interesting post!

    heart Lynne

    • Haydee Montemayor says:

      Hi Lynne,
      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on mystery #3. 🙂 You’re right, everybody is more alike than different generally speaking. And usually, couples unite because many things are in the same frequency. Although it doesn’t always mean that their consciousness is. Glad you enjoyed the post. 🙂

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