When she becomes pregnant, she may be the princess. She may have cravings and desires here and there that she would appreciate someone satisfying.
After giving birth, however, she’s the queen This is especially the case for women who think that they have to do something in order to earn something. And giving birth is certainly something SUPER worthy of the queen title.
10 Roles You Have To Adopt to Treat New Moms Like a Queen
Be Her Janitor
- Clean the bathroom
- Ensure that trash has been taken out
- Double check that there is plenty of bathroom paper in the house and
- Make sure that the bathrooms that she uses are well stocked with bathroom paper.
- Oh, and please don’t just put a roll on top of an almost empty roll.
- Actually take the time to put a new roll into the toilet paper dispenser.
- Having the toilet paper accessible to her at all times and where it belongs, will be the closest thing to a spa environment that she’ll see for several weeks.
Be Her Housekeeper
- Clean the house, especially the kitchen.
- Do the dishes.
- Sweep, mop and vacuum.
- Offer to wash the cloth diapers, baby clothes and regular household laundry.
- The day you get back from the hospital, wash the pillows, blankets, Boppy, slippers, clothes and bags you took to the hospital.
- Disinfect the shoes you took to the hospital.
- Do WHAT YOU KNOW she most appreciates.
- If she’s always wanting you to unload the clean dishes from the dishwasher so that she can load the dirty dishes. Do you think she’ll want you to ignore the dishes now? NOT AT ALL! On the contrary, do them all, and do them often. At the very least, do your part.
- If she is always telling you that you should help out more with the laundry, do you think that this is the time to ignore this desire of hers? Hope you fully understand that the answer is no.
- Do the laundry and do the dishes for heaven’s sake!
Be The Cook, And If You Can Swing It, Be The Chef
- It’s great to be able to eat anything (especially after a natural birth) and there are things that you’re craving for which taste more gloriously than ever after giving birth
- You hardly have time to cook
- There’s less time to enjoy meals and eating can become a luxury because feeding the baby becomes the priority (sometimes at the mom’s own expense)
- Breastfeeding moms require extra calories but ironically, have less time to prepare and enjoy meals
- Make meals she enjoys that are wholesome and healthy.
- She will still want to indulge in a mini powdered sugar here and a little chocolate there but remember that the nutrients that she consumes will be nourishing both her and the baby.
- Buy/make a meal that you know she was craving during pregnancy, but she couldn’t have. Sushi, anyone? Blue cheese?
- Try to have as little food as possible go to waste. Use up or preserve fruits and veggies.
- When you cook, adopt the freezer. Cook bigger meals and freeze some so that when she’s alone she’ll have something to eat.
- Preferably, make sure there’s something ready to eat in the fridge (unfrozen) which she can QUICKLY grab a bite of and return to taking care of the baby. (The key word is quickly. Often, moms have less than 8 minutes to pretty much shove some food down).
- Having meals that are ready is especially important if there are other children who are depending on mom to be nourished when you’re not available to help them.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY: And like any good cook, PLEEEEEASE, for the love of all things holy, keep her hot food hot. This is especially important when her meal is interrupted as a result of the baby needing her, someone calling or nature calling (her need to go to the bathroom). What do you keep it warm with? A pot lid, the stovetop, the pan, or if the oven was turned on recently, the oven.
Be Her 24/7 Room Service
Be Her Nanny
- Offer her to watch her sleeping baby so that she can get ready for the day or at least take a shower.
- The best way of doing this without insinuating that she should get ready or take a shower is to simply say, “I can watch the baby so that you can take care of whatever you feel you need to take care of.”
- Give her time to take care of something from work or from her business.
- Give her a little downtime. Often, some time to enjoy a favorite cup of tea, watch a YouTube video or eat a granola bar with ZERO interruptions can be quite refreshing! Utopian, even. Amazingly, even going to the restroom in peace and quiet seems heavenly. It IS, heavenly, actually.
Be Her Personal Assistant
- If the baby was born before you went to all of your scheduled ob-gyn appointments either because the baby was born prior to 40 weeks or because you booked additional appointments for week 41 and 42, cancel them
- Schedule your 4-6 week ob-gyn appointment depending on when your obgyn wants to see you
- Add your new baby to your health insurance plan and assign a doctor and a dentist to your newborn
- Make an appointment for your baby to see their pediatrician a couple of days after you are discharged from the hospital
- Send the form to request a birth certificate and SSN card
- Order a birth announcement
- Send out birth announcement
- Request an insurance card for the baby if you you don’t automatically receive it. Make sure the correct name and doctor is listed.
- Check the budget
- Make sure pending household payments are taken care of, especially those that she pays manually
- Consider what time of year it is. Is it time to pay car insurance, property taxes, income taxes or home owner association fees? Don’t forget to take care of those payments.
- Set the baby’s two week well child visit
- Set the baby’s one month well child visit
- 2 month well child visit
- 4 month well child visit
- 6 month well child visit
- 9 month well child visit
- 12 month well child visit
- 18 month well child visit
- 24 month well child visit
Be A Photographer
- Her holding the baby (as long as she feels pretty enough for you to take a picture of her)
- The family with the baby
- Big brother or big sister with the baby (if they’re healthy)
- The baby visitors with the baby
- At home
- The baby asleep
- During a towel bath
- After a towel bath with a robe
- With pjs
- With regular clothes
- The baby swaddled
- The baby’s hands
- The baby’s feet
- The baby’s gorgeous face
- And any other cuteness you come across
Be Her Nurse
- Ask her if she feels well
- Ask her if there’s anything you can get for her
- Be caring enough all the time so that if something hurts, she’ll have enough trust in you to let you know
- You know those guys who sit by the sidelines in a sports game and their primary task is to keep the all-star players hydrated? Well, that’s your job. You should keep your wife’s water supply full at all times, and throughout the house like next to her bed, in front of the TV, or on her desk.
- Keep in mind that she most likely can gulp 20 oz. in no time…. so you have to be on your toes when it comes to that. Staying hydrated is ESPECIALLY important if your lady is breastfeeding. Her milk supply is at stake here.
Be Her Masseur/ Masseuse
Be Her Friend
Behind anger, there’s some hurt. A broken promise. Or a wish.
One Important Thing To Say About This Treat New Moms Like a Queen List
Now It’s Your Turn
- Which of these 10 roles do you think that the new mom in your life can most appreciate?
- Which of these roles came as an aha moment for you?
- Which of these roles is the easiest for you? Which one is the hardest?