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Money Archetype by Denise Duffield-Thomas recommended by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure www.loveandtreasure.com

Could Your “Money Personality” Be Sabotaging You?

Hello Love and Treasure Community, I have a special treat for you. Here is a guest blog post by Denise Duffield-Thomas, author of two amazing books that will help you remove the obstacles that you have surrounding money, who will help you answer: Could Your “Money” Personality Be Sabotaging You?

It’s hard to love and treasure the most important things in life when you have money worrying you in the back of your mind.

Hope you enjoy it.  =)

And at the end, I highly suggest that you take her quiz so that you know what your money personality is.  This will help you see what aspects of your money personality are positive and what aspects you can tweak to be even more abundant in every sense of the word.

Without further ado… here’s Denise.

 

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You know the feeling you get when you do “that thing” around money AGAIN?

Spend wildly on a new extravagance even though bills are due…

Hoard every penny even though you really want to splurge on a vacation…

Forgo a spa treatment because your daughter really wants that new pair of designer jeans…

Whatever you do with money, I bet you don’t just do it once. Most of us have habits with money — some of which serve us, and some which definitely do not.

So we do “that thing” again, and inside we feel unhappy. It’s not that we don’t want to treat ourselves, or save up money, or buy our loved ones special gifts.

It’s just that we feel like we’re making money decisions on autopilot. Like we’re not in control of the situation, and we’re not so sure we’re crazy about the results of our actions.

Well, what if I told you that you have a unique “money DNA” which is where those habits come from?

Even better, what if I told you that you could “crack the code” on your money DNA and start to leverage your money strengths, while compensating for your weaknesses — so you could stop repeating that same old money story and start living a new one?

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The Most Important Lesson You Can Learn From A Millionaire Artist by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure www.loveandtreasure.com

The Most Important Lesson You Can Learn From A Millionaire Artist

As a creative and a writer, I recognize the immense importance that creativity plays in our early years and throughout our life.

 

But, if we stop to really ask ourselves how comfortable we are with creativity, most of us would agree that creativity is an uncomfortable process.

 

We think that in order to engage in creative tasks, we must prune our insecurities and deliver just the fruit.

 

But, it’s an oxymoron to think like that because:

 

“Creativity and insecurity go hand in hand.”

 

Don’t believe me?

 

Just think about it for just a second.

 

If I were to wave my magic wand (or A magic wand… I don’t have one, but it would be nice)… and grant you the ability to do the creative task that appeals to you THE MOST.

 

What creative task would you want to do?

  • Writing a book?
  • Writing a blog?
  • Watercoloring?
  • Cupcake decorating?
  • Sewing?
  • Card making?
  • Jewelry making?
  • Oh I know… singing?
  • Dancing?
  • All of the above?

 

It really doesn’t matter if the creative task that you’d like to do is in the list or if I failed to include it.

 

The following question is much more important:

 

WHAT is keeping you from engaging in this art?

Think about it for a moment. Listen to your internal dialogue and then tell me what your “inner you” told your “outer you.”

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10 Reasons You'll Love Mother Goose Time 4.14.17 by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog www.loveandtreasure.com

12 Reasons Why You’ll Love Mother Goose Time

In a world filled with too much information and too many products, it’s difficult to choose. So, what do we do? We read reviews, such as those on Amazon and we ask for recommendations from people who are in a similar situation as us.  So if you’re wondering what preschool curriculum you should choose, here are 10 reasons why you’ll love Mother Goose Time.

 

12 Reasons Why You’ll Love Mother Goose Time

 

Reason #1: You Get To Make Your Child A Priority

We have way too many things to fill our day with.

 

It doesn’t matter if you stretch your days horizontally and wake up earlier and go to bed later… you’ll always have more to do.

 

It also doesn’t matter if you stretch your days vertically and work every weekend and weekday, you still probably won’t have enough time to do all that you want to do.

 

So, I have a tip for you that I often have to remind myself of:

"Instead of thinking of the million different reasons why you can't spend more time with your child, make it your #1 daily goal to actually spend time with your child." - Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog www.loveandtreasure.com

“Instead of thinking of the million different reasons why you can’t spend more time with your child, make it your #1 daily goal to actually spend time with your child.” – Haydee Montemayor

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How Words Can Help You Cope With The Election Results by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog which you can find at www.loveandtreasure.com

How Words Can Help You Cope With The Election Results

Before I attempt to say anything…. I just want to hold your hand through time and space, squeeze it and tell you that I know how you’re feeling.

 

If you’re part of my community, it is highly likely that you were hoping that the outcome of this week’s election was one of peace, hope….and love.

 

Turns out, it was one of shock, desolation and hate for MORE THAN HALF the country.

 

For the past couple of days, I have been hibernating emotionally.

 

Hopefully, you have also been doing what you have to do to find your footing once again. To feel more grounded with each passing day. But If you’re on the floor still and need a bit more time to process this all, go ahead. Take your time.

 

 

How I’ve Been Coping, Which Is a Actually NOT The Best Way To Do So

Even though words are my thing, I have said little to very few people. I Whatsapped a friend. Talked to my mom over the phone . FB messages two other friends and my brother. Instagrammed an acquaintance. But I haven’t talked to anyone face to face about it. And it’s felt lonely.

 

And I think that’s how we feel with our emotions.

 

Alone.

 

Torn.

 

Uncertain.

 

Like we put all our hope, all our will and all our might for this result to be a positive one and we were cheated of the win. To say that we were blind-sighted is an understatement.

 

So now, what we’re really left with is suspicion.

 

Of who we can trust.

Of who’s on “our side.”

Of who’s open to love.

Of what’s gonna happen.

Of whether we should have faith.

Of whether we even have any faith left to cling on to.

 

 

What I Learned Really Matters From This Election

Even though words are my thing, it’s almost like there are no words to process this all. And it’s only through really digging deep within ourselves that we can find some answers and make a teeny-tiny little bit of sense of this situation.

 

I get that there are changes that the political establishment needs. I really do.

 

But what’s surprising is that it seems like America snapped and demanded change instead of politely asking for it. And yes, I also understand that maybe politeness in a tense time like these is the last thing you think of. But man! We don’t have to be savages when wanting our voices to be heard, right?

 

“Our desire to be heard shouldn’t have to inflict hurt on others.” – Haydee Montemayor

 

 

Ironically, I think that the best thing we got out of this election is actually several things:

 

  • The notion that we have to be more strategic about how we communicate not only as citizens, but in our own relationships.

 

  • Waiting until we snap….is not the best way to communicate.

 

  • Insulting isn’t either.

 

  • Nor is marginalizing.

 

  • Nor is it minimizing.

 

  • Nor is it making fun of one another.

 

  • Nor is not taking people who pose a potential danger seriously.

 

  • Because when we ignore these things. we run the risk of letting hate win instead of tolerance, unity, acceptable and love.

 

 

So What Did You Learn?

 

As you can see, processing this ordeal takes courage.

 

We need to come to terms with our hurt, how we communicate it and our hope.

 

“Before we can state our hopes, we need to process our hurts.” -Haydee Montemayor

 

In large part, we will have less hurts if we learn how to communicate better.

 

So let’s explore what’s going on inside of you.

 

 

Look Within

 

Before we blame others (which is VERY tempting, especially if you’re in the losing side of this election) ask yourself:

 

  • What didn’t YOU do?

 

  • In what way did your communication fail?

 

 

The 11 Biggest Lessons From The Election Results That I Learned Regarding Communication

 

1) For me, I wish this blog, Love and Treasure, could have reached more people than it has and be more than it is. Since I created Love and Treasure, I knew that love was a topic that deserved and needed the spotlight. And yet, sometimes, I admit that I was worried that everything I wanted to say about this topic would feel cheesy. So I held back a little. Actually, a lot.

 

2) Several months ago, I had the “grandiose” idea of wanting to ask more famous people and famous entrepreneurs to voice their political preference as a way of convincing more people to vote for love, not hate. But I didn’t ask them. Why? Because I thought that I would be an inconvenience and I assumed people were smart, and could see through the candidate that was trying to con them.

 

3) I created a meme about this election that I didn’t promote enough because I didn’t want to be “in your face” about this issue and because at that time, I was a little afraid to speak up more than I did and more than I could have.

 

4) As Oprah says, what we focus on expands.

 

Ummm, yep.

 

I always had a feeling that we were focusing way too much on the guy that we didn’t want instead of the Madame we did.

 

I was guilty of this too.

 

It was fascinated and even mesmerized to see the ineptitude of the guy we didn’t want … and to see how popular he was.

 

It was, and unfortunately is, a very bizarre phenomenon of luring a moth to a flame that I still can’t quite get my head around.

 

For more information on how it literally all went down, I suggest that you reconsider what media you watch.  I loved watching an independent news show called The Young Turks because these guys really DO bravely (not cowardly) tell it like it is… about all of the candidates, and about the issues that most deserve our attention. You should check them out!

 

But I’ve learned that next time, I should focus mostly on what I DO want and be more proactive about sharing my reasoning for moving TOWARD something instead of against it.

 

5) Almost after every election someone comments that there should be an amendment to the electoral college.

 

That’s an understatement, to say the least.

 

Too late now, right?

 

Well,  yes. At least for this time around.

 

6) “Just like being a witness to generosity, brings joy to the heart, being a witness to insults should make you more empathetic.” -Haydee Montemayor

 

We don’t have to be a woman, a Jew, Muslim, a Mexican, disabled, gay or ugly to know that an insult to one of us impacts the rest of us.

 

7) Words written in The Constitution matter.

 

8) What we say we endorse or disavow reflects on us.

 

9) Education matters

“Ignorance is the root of many things, especially the disassociation of that which is really sacred, such as our essence and our heart.” -Haydee Montemayor

 

Said another way,

 

“Ignorance is the antithesis of the ever-increasing potential of the wisdom of the heart.” -Haydee Montemayor

 

10) “The labels we so cowardly put on others are often what we are ourselves. ” -Haydee Montemayor

 

For example, if we call somebody “crooked, ” we are projecting that we ourselves are crooked.

 

The same goes for “dishonest.”

 

The same for “liar.”

 

You can truthfully describe someone. But if you repeat the descriptive word again and again and again, without concrete evidence that you can use as unbiased examples for why you’re calling someone that name….then guess what? You’re not telling the truth about other people, you’re simply projecting what you think they are.

 

It’s like we’re taking our dirty little secret, the characteristic we hard the most about ourselves and momentarily saying to the world, “I’m not ____, THEY are.”

 

And in the end, when we do this, we do one of two things.

 

1) We only fool ourselves OR

2) we attract other fools who have this same issue with themselves to make our projection a little bigger and to think that our way of seeing the world is our absolute truth.

 

But in the end, repeating our projection more and more doesn’t make it a truth, it’s just makes it a more annoying projection.

 

11) And perhaps my favorite lesson is that words of gratitude matter. It is beautiful to watch Bernie Sanders, Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Barrack Obama do so much for the people. To truly become invested in their well-being. And we owe so much to them. And a thank you may not seem enough for everything they’ve done, but it’s much better than nothing.

 

 

So as you live through the many stages of grief, which if you’re like me… Aren’t sequential but all over the place…. Ask yourself: What did you learn about your communication and communication in general?

 

 

If You’re Scared To Look Within, Listen From An Answer From Within

 

If you’re in a state of shock so big that you haven’t really been able to process what the beep just happened… try this:

 

Ask yourself:

What Does My Soul Want To Say?

In my case, it pisses me off when the bad guy wins.

 

Like….ARGHHHHHH!

 

Like what the hell?!

 

I’m all for the underdog winning, not the dog.

 

So What Does Your Soul Want To Say?

 

Listen to your soul.

 

Resist the temptation to sensor it.

 

Simply listen to what is wanting to come through you.

 

And once you’re ready, talk to whomever has earned the right to hear your story.

 

And communicate.

 

Really!

 

“Communicate because words are the way we make sense of the world.” – Haydee Montemayor

 

Communication is your way out of the fog you may feel. Even if you’re only communicating with yourself.

 

 

Rip The Bandage Off, If You Need To And When You’re Ready

If your soul is still resistant to speak up. Ask yourself:

 

What Hurts The Most About What Just Happened?

 

In my case, the result is pretty bad in and of itself. Having to explain it to my son… is just too much! I haven’t had the heart to do it. Just the notion that he lives in a world where this could be happening made it very difficult for me to want to get up on November 9th.

 

Trying to make sense of all of this as an adult… is super hard. Trying to explain it to a little one… seems almost impossible. This is really messed up.

 

Another thing that hurts me quite a bit is this:

I’m sure that people on both the winning side and the losing side have lost in the past.

 

“Losing sucks. Losing unfairly sucks big time.” -Haydee Montemayor

 

You know what I mean?

 

If the electoral college really gave the ultimate victory (which it hasn’t voted on and will do so until December 19, 2016), to whoever got the greatest number of votes, then justice would be made.

 

But instead, we’ve decided to play Bingo and grant the victory not to the person that actually filled most squares of the card, but to the person who filled in the least number of fields. Like helloooooo?!

 

Who DOES that?!

 

Apparently, we do.

 

And unfortunately, we do this more times than they’re acceptable.

Or fair. Or just.

 

Let me explain. Since the beginning of this century… This “phenomenon” of putting the losing candidate into the White House has happened twice in 5 elections.

 

So Let’s Do Some Math, Shall We?

 

2 divided into 5….is 40%

That means, that the people of the U.S. get a leader that we DON’T vote for 40% of the time!

That’s outrageous! Insane! Shitty! Totally, Absolutely and Painfully Unfair!

Yes, of course there are way more years to the century (if we all survive that long, know what I mean? Wink, wink) … But STILL!! Being stuck with someone who you didn’t choose for the second time in just a little over a decade and a half is unimaginable… Preposterous.

 

So it’s no wonder that we’re hurting!

 

How this can happen in a “so-called” democracy beats me! Yes, I know that the electoral votes are the cause behind this, but as it’s REALLY clear, that electoral college system is archaic. It was used as a safeguard that no longer applies. And that quite honestly, reduces the value of the vote.

 

For example… why should someone’s vote in New York be less important than someone’s vote in Oregon? People who live in large cities or crowded states already compete for and literally pay the price for living there. They shouldn’t be cheated out of having their vote be worth less. They shouldn’t have to compete for the value of their vote.

 

So yep, the electoral college should be removed. And when it is, the value of someone filling out the space on a BINGO card, will be exactly the same value as someone else filling in another BINGO card.

 

That, is called fairness.

 

We all need an even playing field . Whether were women, men, someone voting for the 8th time or the 1st time regardless of where we live, what our race is or what our socio-economic status is.

 

So, on the brink of doubting what freedoms you have still and what you can control, take advantage of the fact that you still have the chance to feel and the chance to express your emotions. You still have the chance to connect with yourself. And to extend your hand to someone else who might be needing you to reach out, squeeze their hand and help them heal.

 

Now It’s Your Turn

In the comments below, share with us what your biggest takeaways were from this election. In times like these, like in every “so-called” failure, we can make the “failure” a little less of a “failure” by asking ourselves what we learned and applying those lessons in the future.

Have Breastmilk? Making The Time To Breastfeed Does The Body Good by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog that you can find at www.loveandtreasure.com

Have Breastmilk? Making The Time To Breastfeed Does The Body Good

Are you wanting to breastfeed but are telling yourself what is probably the number one excuse we ALL use, (that I really shouldn’t have to tell you because you know it already) which is, “I don’t have time” to breastfeed.

 

When it comes to breastfeeding, “I don’t have time,” can mean three things.

 

It can mean that:

 

1) There so many doubts and hangups that you have about breastfeeding that you FEEL like you don’t have the time to figure out how to breastfeed, why to breastfeed, when to breastfeed, how often to breastfeed and everything else that breastfeeding entails. And don’t worry, I totally get it that that’s a lot of information.

 

2) You are a busy person and literally don’t know when you’ll be able to squeeze in the time to breastfeed.

 

3) You’re just using the phrase as an excuse.

 

 

So Now That You Know What’s Holding You Back In Your Breastfeeding, What Are You Gonna Do About It?

The good news is that when you use the “I don’t have time” excuse for any of the reasons mentioned above, you can actually test these the reasons/excuses by asking yourself a simple question that author of The Work, Byron Katie asks  and that is “Is it true?” If you say yes, then  you ask yourself her second question, which is, “Can you be absolutely know that it’s true?” Or you can take my shortcut and just ask yourself.. “Is that really true?”

 

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After Love, What’s Your Biggest Ally To Help You Breastfeed Successfully? by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog found on www.loveandtreasure.com

After Love, What’s Your Biggest Ally To Help You Breastfeed Successfully?

Women, in general, seem to like comparing themselves to other women. I don’t know if we do it because we really CARE if we’re ahead of the rest of the women or not OR because we have SO many insecurities about ourselves that we just want to confirm that we’re not the worst player on the team.

 

But the fact that we want to run, run , run as fast as we can, turn back and say, “you can’t catch me, I’m the gingerbread gal” is a huge indication that we shouldn’t be wishing to get ahead just for the sake of getting ahead. That wishing to get ahead without a real focus on what TRULY matters is all mental games. And that instead of focusing our attention sideways to see if anybody is “caught up to us” or behind us  or in front of us, when it comes to breastfeeding, we should pause, look down at our baby and re-engage with WHY we’re breastfeeding in the first place. We’re breastfeeding not to compare to other women. We’re breastfeeding to offer the best of ourselves to our baby.

 

What’s The Main Hesitation About Breastfeeding That You Need To Get Over?

I know that it SEEMS that some women have it “easy” when it comes to breastfeeding.

 

And you may THINK that you don’t have it easy or won’t have it easy.

 

Let me just pull back the curtain for you and reveal an important truth that I would REALLY like for you to TRULY process:

 

Out of ALL the breastfeeding women I know, NOBODY has had a 100% perfect breastfeeding experience.

 

Like NO-BO-DY .

 

Yet, many women have gone on to breastfeed for yeeeeears.

 

What Do You Need To Shift In Order To Get Over The Fact That Breastfeed Isn’t Easy?

 

Do you know what the difference between the women who breastfeed for years and those who don’t even breastfeed for 6 months is?

 

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What Is Breastfeeding Really Like?: An Introduction To Breastfeeding by Haydee Montemayor fro m Love and Treasure Blog that you can find by visiting www.loveandtreasure.com

What Is Breastfeeding Really Like?: An Introduction To Breastfeeding

Introduction To Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is one of those topics where introducing it to someone won’t be enough or as “satisfactory” as it would be if you were getting an introductory overview of another topic.

 

You see, in order to understand breastfeeding, you have to actually DO IT.

 

What Is Required For You To Really Say You Know What Breastfeeding Is Like?

 

Before you even start breastfeeding, you need to really have a clear motivation for DOING IT and for CONTINUING TO DO IT. In other words, you need to commit to breastfeeding by remember who you’re breastfeeding for.

 

Obviously, you’re committing to breastfeeding for your baby’s wellbeing.

 

“Breastfeeding is no walk in the park. But you know what? It’s the best red carpet you can roll out for your baby.” – Haydee Montemayor

 

 

  • You need to learn about the breastfeeding process and apply it. Breastfeeding isn’t about theory. It’s about practice.

 

  • You need to feel what it feels like to breastfeed.

 

  • See the baby enjoy it.

 

  • Realize that it actually feels good to do it.

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Eye Opening Facts About The Nutritional and Health Benefits Breastmilk Offers That Formula Simply Doesn't by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure blog at www.loveandtreasure.com

Eye-Opening Facts About The Nutritional and Health Benefits Breastmilk Offers that Formula Simply Doesn’t

The phrase, “you are what you eat (which by the way should really be, you are what you absorb) starts on the day that you’re born.

 

Your baby’s quality of life starts to be defined the minute you decide to give him/her breastmilk or formula.

 

  • Breastfeeding has nutritional, intellectual, immunological, emotional and psychological benefits.

 

  • Formula has nutritional benefits.

 

It’s important that when talking about any food item that you keep in mind that nutritional benefits are comprised of two things:

  • The actual nutrients found in that food item
  • And how those nutrients impact your direct and overall health

 

Today we will focus on the nutritional benefits of breastmilk and formula by doing a side-by-side comparison. And will discuss how these nutritional benefits impact your baby’s health now and for his/her lifetime.

 

 

My Story in Deciding How To Nourish My Baby

 

As I shared in the last post, when I became pregnant with my firstborn, I KNEW I wanted to breastfeed.

 

So when I was hours away from holding my baby in my arms, I was SUPER happy to see the best educational visual EVER hanging on the hospital wall (where I had my baby naturally with no medications) that showed how long the list of positive ingredients in breastmilk was in comparison to the list of ingredients in formula.

 

I didn’t need the extra push or validation to breastfeed, but if I did, seeing that poster would have made me sing “Whoomp there it is! Whoomp there it is! Shaka laka shaka laka shaka laka shaka whoomp!”

 

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10 Reasons You Should Breastfeed That Speak For Themselves And Implore You To Breastfeed by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure Blog you can find at www.loveandtreasure.com

10 Reasons You Should Breastfeed That Speak For Themselves And Implore You To Breastfeed

Breastfeeding is one of those topics that fuels mommy wars.

 

Mothers who decide to breastfeed can’t comprehend why there are mothers who decide not to breastfeed.

 

Mothers who don’t breastfeed don’t understand what the big fuss about breastfeeding your baby is all about.

 

And while it’s up to you to decide on which side of this elephant in the room you stand on, I’m here to share what I know about breastfeeding from the research and from my experience.

 

I wish I could be impartial and provide you with research studies that presented the downside of breastfeeding. But I haven’t found any. (Not that I think any exist).

 

On the contrary, the value and benefits of breastfeeding are such, that usually, pediatricians, the American Academy of Pediatrics Association (AAP,) breastfeeding consultants and the World Health Organization (WHO) are in agreement that babies should be breastfed for 1 year to 3 years or more. Many people are under the impression that 6 months is what you should aim to breastfeed for, but if you read the fine print carefully, you’ll at least 6 months of EXCLUSIVE breastfeed is suggested, but that it is also recommended that you continue to breastfeed even after you start introducing solids.

 

My decision to breastfeed was a very natural and easy one. In my mind, mothers breastfed. That’s what they do.

 

Even though I myself wasn’t breastfed and I don’t remember seeing my mother breastfeed my younger sister and my younger brother because she would do it behind closed doors in her bedroom… I decided to breastfeed. I knew it was important to my baby and I.

 

Since I had no role models to look up to, I started to do my own research and get comfortable with the idea I would be breastfeeding. And I was pretty excited.

 

When I was pregnant, I went to my first breastfeeding support group.

 

It was funny being there without a baby. And it was funnier that I was there before anybody could tell that I was pregnant.  And you know what my recurring though was for most of that session? “I don’t want to see any boobs.” Although truth be told, I did see some breastfeeding mom’s boobs there and at other mothering courses I attended.

 

Despite that, I was determined to breastfeed.

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What To Do When The Journey's Been Rough And Where To Go From Here by Haydee Montemayor from Love and Treasure Blog

What To Do When The Journey’s Been Rough And Where To Go From Here

With all of the turmoil that has been going on are you feeling particularly restless?

 

In part, you feel restless because the external world is particularly chaotic at the moment.

 

But mostly, life feels that it’s upside-down because of that one issue in your own life that has perplexed you, haunted you, annoyed you and followed your around for all this time.

 

You know the one that I’m talking about, right?

 

Yeah, THAT one.

 

And as huge as that issue is…

As unsurmountable as you think it is…

As embarrassing as you feel it is…

You know what? It doesn’t define you.

 

But you think it does.

 

So much so, that you are feeling uncomfortable that I’m bringing it up this issue and that I’m drawing your attention to it.

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